The Definition of a Mother

“The mother memories that are closest to my heart are the small gentle ones that I have carried over from the days of my childhood. They are not profound, but they have stayed with me through life, and when I am very old, they will still be near . . . Memories of mother drying my tears, reading aloud, cutting cookies and singing as she did, listening to prayers I said as I knelt with my forehead pressed against her knee, tucking me in bed and turning down the light. They have carried me through the years and given my life such a firm foundation that it does not rock beneath flood or tempest.” 
― Margaret Sanger

I have spent some time thinking about the definition of a mother since I became one 3 short months ago. I mistakenly thought that I was not a mother anymore after my child died - who would I have to Mother ? I've come to discover that my thoughts were far from true....

A Mother is an individual who loves their child unconditionally and puts the needs of her child above her own. This child can be given birth to, adopted, someone who needed caring for, or a child that is now gone from this world. The definition is limitless, really. This defines me and many other women  I know.

The love I feel and felt for Finn will always be there and will always be strong. That makes me a Mother still and today I will enjoy thinking about Finn's short life and be thankful I got to meet him. . It doesn't feel like a sad day but a day to enjoy and celebrate!

I will also be thinking of my Mom and my Mother in Law today. Although they are far away and enjoying  warm Arkansas weather, I will enjoy reminiscing about the amazing times (good and bad) we have had so far during my life and the beautiful life we will share ahead. Moms form some of our best memories and help us through some important times. I know mine did.

Cheers to all of the Mothers out there! I hope you all had an amazing day!